Choosing Differently: A Memoir of a Software Entrepreneur’s Wife is the candid story of a divorce. It’s also a story of an internet startup, which ultimately failed, so the story is about heartache and poor decisions on two fronts. Choosing Differently is at once sober and heartfelt, as Joseph tackles the problems in her life with a deepening sense of self-respect and adventure, while giving an interesting front-row seat to the competitive, and oft-times disappointing, world of software development.
What could have been a memoir of airing dirty laundry, it never succumbs to this, as Joseph is equally candid about her own faults. In fact, she reserves even more judgment for herself than her husband, so the book is as much about overcoming personal difficulty as it is about overcoming problems with a significant other. Certainly, her husband’s faults are on display, but only for Joseph to delve into self-judgment and analysis, with Joseph hashing out everything she’s been through in her life and trying, finally, to make sense of it all.
Joseph is a passionate and eloquent chronicler of her life, giving the book a real sense of purpose beyond the confines of a divorce memoir. It’s a compelling story and should be inspiring to someone facing divorce themselves, or merely struggling with bad relationships, even if that relationship is purely personal.